Thanks Zoos.
My point is simply that finding a bean in a bag of rice doesn't make it a bag of rice. You can make anything correlate to something else if you try hard enough; and too many times people go to these great lengths and try and make these mental gymnastics to try and make a point about something that doesn't fit the topic at hand at all.
My boss tries to exert some kind of control over me. That doesn't make them equivalent to an abusive spouse.